Bride misconstrues her financial situation to wedding guests, demands money gifts to help pay for lavish ceremony despite payraise: "I think I have one friend less now"

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Ely Bulnes • Writer and Editor
Mar 22, 2025 7:00 PM EDT

Welcome, women of the World Wide Web. We all know that weddings can get really expensive. Depending on where you live and the culture, there is a chance that the wedding cost will not be so high due to money gifts. There are places where wedding guests are expected to arrive with a cheque or cash so that the bride and groom can pay off most, if not all, the cost of the celebration. No one will kick you out if you don't comply, but it would be considered a faux pas to arrive empty-handed. In other cultures, expecting money is completely unheard of and even considered tacky! Guests might be more inclined to give a physical gift or contribute to a wedding registry. 

In our story today, a bride demands money from her guests. It is unclear whether or not she hails from a money-gifting culture, but even if she did, she is so adamant about it that it rubs out protagonist the wrong way. Later, it becomes clear that bride lied about her financial situation in order to get more money. Scroll down for all the details. 

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    I think a friend hid something crucial in order to get more money from the gifts

    "She tried to make sure I was gifting money"
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  • 02
    Was cheering a friend for a much awaited payrise yesterday, and Friend nonchalantly told me "no but it happened two yrs ago in February, this rise is a new one."
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  • 03
    Ops. I can remember said friend, two yrs ago in February, lamenting about the pay and how little money were and the job market etc
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  • 04
    Friend was getting married. Friend also complained about the family not helping at all. Friend also made some comment about people not sending gifts (money) earlier.
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    STATES OF DOU SKRANES CREE D
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    Friend also tried to make sure I was gifting money. Can you hear me? Money! Let's talk about money and how much I want money for my wedding (I kinda agree, get what you want, the only thing I was disturbed about is that the wedding was lavish and
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    we were basically pressured to finance it because the other spouse wanted it. But ok I would have gifted money anyway so it was just the bother of the pressure that felt out of touch, the "more money" that was implied didn't work with me.)
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    In short, it seems Friend was depicting a worse financial situation in order to subside the lavish wedding that the other spouse (who I'm not friend with) wanted. I think I have one friend less now.
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  • If you decide to give money as a wedding gift, it should be based on your own salary, what amount you are willing to part with, and your personal relatonship with the bride and groom. It should not be based off of the couple's financial situation. 

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    unsavvylady Good riddance. The real gift is you no longer have to finance her life decisions
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    AdoraBelleQueerArt So gross. I'm sorry you were treated like this. It's one of the worst ways to lose a friend, but you'll find a better, more honest one
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    Chocolatecandybar_ OP Thank you, this was cute to say. It is exactly how I feel, actually. This person wasn't good for me and I'm making space for better things to come
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    EvelynLuigi What's really sad is a bet her wedding was super lame not even worth all the deception and theft
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  • She showed her true face months after the wedding. Our protagonist would find out one way or another that she was a deceitful individual.

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    Chocolatecandybar_ OP The wedding was ok, the bad part is that my friend didn't happen to get whatever hen/ bachelor/bachelorette because basically this "I would walk on everyone's body for my spouse" alienated all the other friends except for me.
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    Spouse's friend had a party, instead, and the friends pretended it was for the two of them but actually didn't prepare anything.my friend could eat or drink (I contacted them to make sure etc etc and they ignored me.)
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    Same happened with clothes, hair, makeup, you name one. Basically my friend lied, lost friends and paid in order to give the other spouse the dream wedding and what got back? Zero care from the spouse. It was sad to see
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    International-Ear108 You sure it was for their spouse? Seems like another potential deception.
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    Chocolatecandybar_ OP Yes, they have different marriage traditions so it was quite visible it was all about the spouse
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    EvelynLuigi That's a rough way to start a marriage. You are right to back away. She sounds like a user and a pick me Very sad
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    WhoFearsDeath How much I gift is based on my budget and income, not the recipient's.
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    i_nobes_what_i_nobes Well, now you know how much it cost to get rid of someone like that
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    Capable-Upstairs7728 Your ex-friend is a greedy grifter, a liar, and a parasite. You did the right thing removing him from your life, good riddance.
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    Chocolatecandybar_ OP Yes. I thought delulu was the right label but now that I know it was all planned...
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